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Ever fallen for a straight girl?

I'm curious. I know i have. And i don't just mean like "woah that girls pretty...i dig" lol, i mean like straight up fallin for her. Loved her, cared for her, wanted to talk to her all night. Wished she was into you, but fact was.....
she was straight.

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Permalink Reply by octogone on March 10, 2009 at 3:23am: I fall for straight girls like it's my job. Some of my friends joke around with me that I'm attracted to them because they're straight and if they were actually gay I wouldn't be into them anymore. I'm falling for one right now even...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lisa on March 10, 2009 at 3:28am: i've fallen for at least 3. it's terrible cause you're scared they'll freak out if you tell them how you feel. that actually just recently happened to me ;-/; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by chris is finding forever on March 10, 2009 at 3:30am: lol yeah...you know what's the worst though. i straight girls know how to mess around with ur heart. every dude they talk to , u think they're in love with him haha...n they KNOW It bothers u too...

and what's worse is they'll have those days when they get kinda close to u, but back off real fast.

its a tease, a mess...n damn it hurts; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lisa on March 10, 2009 at 3:33am: yup, and that's pretty much why me and that girl aren't friends anymore. cause her boyfriend is a douche and i just couldn't be around it anymore. and yeah, it hurt like hell lol.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Electro Ecstasy on March 20, 2009 at 6:56pm: OMG!!! Yes I know exactly what you mean this has happened to me before. They do know how to mess around with your heart because I think deep down inside they know just like any body knows when someone likes them right. Yes that is true some days they get close then back off. They are big flirts and it is tearing you up inside. :(:(; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Amberlee on March 10, 2009 at 6:06pm: lol. Falling for your straight best friend who constantly leads you on is even worse. And I am guilty.
Last night I finally had to tell her that I needed to leave her alone for awhile because I couldn't handle it anymore.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by chris is finding forever on March 10, 2009 at 10:46pm: im kinda in ur shoes, sept i cant leave her alone.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Amberlee on March 22, 2009 at 3:22am: lol. I'm guilty of that too... It was only three short days before I started talking to her again. She said some pretty hurtful things in a blog because she was trying to prove to her ex that she loved him, in the process she fucked up a lot of her friendships. Doesn't help that I promised her that I wouldn't ever leave her the way that other friends had when she was hurting and stuff. It all comes down to how much she means to you. If she means enough to you, you have to learn how to separate your feelings for her as a friend and your feelings for her as 'more than a friend'. It pretty much sucks because every time you're with her all you can think about is how happy you can/have/and will make her if she was yours. It isn't fair that she's told me countless times that she wants to make out with me and even tried to two days after Christmas because she was drunk. That hurt in ways that no one should ever have to deal with. Once she even told me that if she knew she could be with me without cheating on me, she would be with me... even though she claims to be straight. I can't promise you or even tell you that it will get better because it hasn't for me. It hasn't gotten any easier and I'm afraid that it never will. All that aside, I have learned how to be a friend when I need to be and when it's okay to try to win her over. Somehow I think that it still matters that I'm trying to learn to be a friend and a friend alone. lol. I'm rambling, I apologize. Forgive me for my cynicism!; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by theweofme6 on March 11, 2009 at 12:49am: I find that 'fallin' for a straight lady isn't always about being a lez. Oftentimes it's about what we(I) am attracted to....does she make me laugh, does she get my korny humor, is she a great person to just spend time with...does she 'get me'...know what i mean. If she knows I'm a lez and wants to get that close to me...well ....we both risk. However, isn't any relationship a risk.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sarah on March 12, 2009 at 12:43am: Yeah, my best friend for five years.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jen on March 12, 2009 at 10:25pm: Yes. I have fallen for a straight girl before. I totally agree with the whole wanting to talk to her all night wishing she was into you ,thing. Gone through it. She laughed at what I said and did.. The way she looked at me..that look. With the whole eyes thing. The bedroom eyes. I know how it is too..when you want to tell her but you can't. But she knew I was a lesbian. She was cool with it,but I couldn't tell her I had a crush on her. Although she and I talked and she said hypothetically if I told her she would thank me. Basically, I wanted to tell her. But, I couldn't.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sarah on March 12, 2009 at 10:46pm: I went through this with my best friend; she knew about my sexuality, but I hadn't said who I liked, or anything... anyway. We'd had conversations before where she had said she thought love wasn't possible in high school, and also she's a little homophobic. It just freaks her out, I think. But we had been best friends for a long time, and we're practically twins... I mean, the past few summers we've basically spent the entire time with each other.
So I was talking to her, once, and I asked her how she would define love. Basically, friendship+attraction. and I told her I felt closer to her than I ever have to anyone (which she quickly reciprocated), and that she understood me better than anyone I'd ever known, and that I felt I understood her in the same way. Which she agreed with. and I reminded her that I was a lesbian, and then I said I found her attractive.. and she thanked me, genuinely, it wasn't weird. I told her I loved her, that I had for a while. aaand... she thanked me. Sincere flattery, is what it seemed like. I already knew she was straight, so it wasn't like, a disappointment. Her reaction was the best I could ever have expected.. :) she said she loved me, too--not in the same way, but still.
The biggest problem I've had with her is one I can easily deal with: she tends to be flirtatious with me constantly, especially when she's happy, which can be difficult to deal with, being immensely attracted to her. She forgets I'm lesbian, constantly. Which, honestly, is the best gift she could've given me. She doesn't view me any differently, at all, than she used to.
So... that's what happened with me, I'm not sure what to tell you for how you can do it. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, but that's because it's the hardest thing in the world for me to admit how I feel, especially when it's a very strong feeling. She was really supportive. Your friend may have already guessed, or at the very least wondered, if you have/had a crush on her, so probably it won't be too difficult. I think it's good to remember that they're your friend, that they'll accept you no matter what.; ▶ Reply to This